I sort of disagree.
Ik people tend to write what happens in the real world "sometimes" however when it comes to gay ppl like myself. In bl stories what happens there is not very realistic all the time. 
falling in love with your loan shark is not something that happens irl to a lot of gay ppl, going in the end with your rapist is not something that gay ppl or anyone in general really do. Fuc**** or being in a relationship with your partners father is not something gay ppl do💀. The way you said it just honestly makes me think you missed my entire point. Also Ik ppl have truma in real life. But being honest most of the authors whom write gay characters or bl or gl are often times where the happen to be straight and the always make it extremely sad for gay ppl storyline or kill or the gay characters or ppl in the story, or make them go through extreme he**. Which I'm not denying that some gay ppl do actually go through a lot Ik some do, but when most authors constantly write that, it does paint a picture. Especially how ppl would use the excuse to say it happens irl. Like no it really doesn't happen extremely bad all the time.
but again I'm not saying that ppl can't write sad stories that's fine. But I was specifically talking abt this dynamic is werid and it is the truth, this particular bl was father and son ex bf and still pushing the fact abt gayness can be cured... like I'm not saying some ppl don't say that irl cause some do. But no body really goes with a father of bf and especially a person that says you can cure your gayness or werid comments. 
plus when your main point is this is what happens irl. U miss my entire point abt how this particular bl is weird, plus u ignore the part abt how this actually doesn't really happen irl to gay ppl often. Like a lot of the things written by a lot of girls in bl doesn't actually happen all the time in irl. Only some parts